99.9% confident it was the DME relay all along .. I put the car through all the motions at which point it previously stumbled and hesitated, for about an hour + drive , with three brief stops at some stores, and it ran perfectly ! I’m embarrassed that after 40 years of driving 944s and 968s, that wasn’t the first thing I thought about . It should always be !
However , on the flip side, I would have never discovered that I had ( at least one ) crappy cables , nor that one of the spark plug wells is full of oil, until and if that would eventually have left me stranded somewhere . So I’ll take that as a silver lining .