This is a long overdue update on my vibration issue. For one reason or another i've only just got the car sorted in the last week.
So, after taking it to a couple of mechanics for their opinions, they found the flex damper is in one piece, no cracks, it's all still there. However, it may still be the culprit of a vibration at 3k rpm I haven't been able to remedy. Read on...
What did make a huge difference was new engine mounts. Despite replacing mine exactly a year ago and driving less than 3,000 km since I needed new ones. Last year I installed aftermarket ones, this time I paid the premium for original Porsche ones, which will hopefully last a whole lot longer for the sake of my wallet.
The old mounts hadn't collapsed much, but the engine is now a whole lot smoother, especially at idle. And the vibration I was feeling at 3k rpm and particularly under load is now much less noticeable. So the old engine mounts were amplifying whatever it is that is causing the second vibration. One theory is that the Flex Damper is somehow warped or out of shape.
I haven't driven the car much since I got it back, yet to decide if the vibration that is left is worth chasing or if it's something I can live with.