[Ledhedsymbols]

Well, it happened. I went out and bought a ring. I spoke with her parents this weekend (in between fishing trips) and everyone is in agreement that it's about damn time. We are talking about sometime next summer (July or August it's the only nice weather you can count on here in Seattle) but no firm date or locataion set as of yet. Any advice from some of you who have a bit more life experience than I do on how to plan a wedding or how to stay married?

On the upside, she loves the 968 and loves to fish, so I think we will make it just fine.





Tight Lines,

Micah

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[Anchorman]

If she likes fishing and the 968, you're a big step towards longevity. The other success elements are knowing how to say "Yes, dear", "You're right, dear", and "Whatever you want, dear". I'm at 37 years and counting. <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/biggrin.gif" class="smilie" alt="" />

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[flash]

one of the biggest sources of fights i have seen lately amongst my friends who are recently married is over the expense of the wedding et all



while they love the event and its trappings at the time, paying for it over the next 10 years slows them down and complicates their lives - if you have to pay for it yourself, do it as cheaply as you can - move on to getting the house - take the money you would have spent on the wedding and honeymoon and put it into the house



the most important thing i've learned in all my relationships is something i never thought was desireable, and fortunately i've found in this one - i always thought that the successful relationship would be the one in which we both agreed on everything - that has turned out to be a very flawed concept - while we agree on a lot, but we differ in many areas - it's the differences that actually bring us closer



after talking with a number of people who have been together for a long time, they all agree:



LEARN HOW TO FIGHT - you will have disagreements - that's normal - it's also healthy - being able to resolve them and work them out, and not just walk away is a key ingredient to success - don't shy away from confrontation if you want it to last - work through it - look at it from their perspective - argue both sides - you'd be amazed at how cleansing that can be



choosing which things to fight about is key too - this is one i'm still learning - some stuff you just have to say "that's not important enough to me"

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[94SilverCab]

I got married a year ago, and then she says "You got the girl, when are you going to sell the car?"....a very long silence.... <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/blink.gif" class="smilie" alt="" />



So I put a For Sale sign on the car...$30,000 FIRM (Actually the car was in the garage under a cover with the sign on it...) <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/cool.gif" class="smilie" alt="" />



Then I started talking about my next project...tuning a Miata (Exhaust, Chipped, Custom Wheels, Paint, ++++ $30,000). <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/dry.gif" class="smilie" alt="" />



We attended our first 968 celebration together this June and met a whole lot of nice people...now we're BOTH happy Porsche owners...LOL



...if your fiance' is into Fishing AND 968's you should have a happy future indeed.



Best Wishes,



Jay







“Bigamy is having one wife too many. Monogamy is the same.”



Oscar Wilde

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[Greimann]

[quote name='flash' date='Jul 12 2005, 10:18 AM']one of the biggest sources of fights i have seen lately amongst my friends who are recently married is over the expense of the weeding ....

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Sounds like the simple solution is to change gardeners <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/smile.gif" class="smilie" alt="" />

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[KensCab]

Best advice---- a long, long, long engagement !

....going on five years......

it works... for both of us...

but that may change real soon, we got the bands about three or four months ago, so... could be most anytime!

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[flash]

lol - that too - thanks dave

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[ds968]

Congrtaulations Micah !



will have our 30th wedding anniversary NEXT July. Proposed 3 days ( yes, not a typo ) after I met Alena, the wedding ( 1 1/2 years later ) consisted of 6 people...so clearly it wasn't the big ceremony planning that required the time, just training exercises / testing that the marriage will work <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/wink.gif" class="smilie" alt="" /> , and here we are sooo many years later and going pretty damn well if I may say so..



What's the secret ?



1. Nothing more than a realizing that marriage requires the ability to compromise; you get to compromise every principle and what you held dear your entire life. <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/blink.gif" class="smilie" alt="" /> But we have a solution: I make the big decisions, she makes the small decisions and we abide by that rule. One of her small decisions is to decide which is a big and which is a small decision. <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/unsure.gif" class="smilie" alt="" /> <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/sad.gif" class="smilie" alt="" />



And, 2. Affairs, affairs, affairs ! I can't stress enough how important these are.



Aw, come on.. I'm KIDDING !!! <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/tongue.gif" class="smilie" alt="" /> <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/tongue.gif" class="smilie" alt="" />





ancient photo here (from 94, same as the 968 ) because she claims we both look like crap now and refuses me to post anything recent.. sheesh, yes, but it's I alone that looks like crap now..

   



and the offspring.. hey we're all like family on this forum, I'm taking the liberty of sharing some of your "relatives" with you guys..

   

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[NeedPorscheSpeed]

Congratulations, Micah! <img src="/forum/images/smilies/968/smile.gif" class="smilie" alt="" />

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[Greimann]

They got me started now with this sound clip stuff. Here is one for you married guys. :

He's The Man

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[Ledhedsymbols]

Thanks for all the advice and words of encouragement. I certainly hope that I can be as successful at mairrage as some of you folks have been.

As a product of a divorce myself, I don't intend this to be a "trial", and I certainly don't plan to give up if it stops being easy. She's the right one.



Micah

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