I don't have a cleaner, gardener, caterer, etc. OK, I do earn more than the average, but with kids going to a private school and the extra taxes, I think it evens it up a fair bit. My wife does not work, so no double income.
So average, in a middle class sort of way - you bet. Average in a blue collar way, no, but that is where I came from and where I started life. Wealthy, in that work is optional and I only do it to put more money I the bank - no, I owe, I owe, so it is off to work I go. So do I think I am average, yes, if above the median point.
I have been in too many mining towns where everyone gets their nose out if joint because you are "management". As my wife once said to a person that was complaining "you too can have what we have". Really she asked, how?
Well your husband would have to study part time for seven years to get a degree, then do four more years part time to get a Masters, then study again to obtain the required Statutory Qualifications, work in some pretty crappy locations to gain experience, possibly have to move overseas for a while and accept a senior role and be responsible as a manager. Her response was "that is too hard".
Lots of people want what they are not willing to work for and try to put down those that have worked bloody hard for it. Why do we not like the 1980's Porsche image, because it was bankers and stockbrokers that had them. They had not (a generalization I know) worked hard for it. It was all paper money which evaporated and left us all with a sour taste in our mouths.
So if you have worked for it - well done, enjoy it. If it is a dream that you have attained, bloody well done. If it is richly deserved, so much the better. Even if you won lotto and it was your dream, congratulations. Why bring people down for enjoying themselves?
I don't understand why we (as a collective people) cannot simply be happy for someone else gaining pleasure from something that they like. It would be like telling a surfer that he cannot surf because everyone cannot. Do we ridicule people for having a boat, jet ski, etc? What is so different about a car?